Love often begins with a question, a need, or a simple connection.
“What do you think of this?” is an easy enough question to ask of an attractive person who catches our eye and who appears to be open.
In fact, countless opportunities to strike up conversations with others pop up in the course of any given day, be it in a cafeteria line, a sporting goods store, a Home Depot, food market, or even a fitness center.
Just recently, a single man—the giveaway was his small basket filled with what was obviously food for one, such as a single apple, approached me in a grocery store aisle, smiled, and asked, “Excuse me, Miss, but have you ever tried these frozen Lean Cuisine meals? I’ve never tasted them and have always wondered if they’re any good. What do you think?”
Well, of course I was flattered that he singled me out with his question–especially since he was extremely courteous–but it soon became apparent that he really wanted to talk more.
He was actually a very attractive man, and if I hadn’t already been in a committed relationship with David, I might have lingered. Who knows?
Ladies, you might want to grab a chance to ask a male customer for his opinion about an electric screwdriver, leaf blower, or a new-fangled wrench in a Home Depot or hardware store.
The truth is that each day holds infinite opportunities to make connections with strangers just by going through the motions of daily living, including shopping for whatever. But it does require that we remain open to “chance meetings” by smiling, making eye contact, and often being the first to say “hello” to an approachable stranger.
So if you happen to be a single man or woman, I urge you to bear in mind that people meet potential mates everywhere they go.
Ladies, you might want to seize the chance to ask a man’s opinion about the equipment he’s using at the fitness center. “Excuse me, sir,” you could begin, “I’ve often wondered about that machine you’re on. Do you think it’s something I could learn to handle?”
By seizing small opportunities such as this and by focusing on a topic that puts the emphasis on something other than you, you invite casual conversation which might be continued next time you see him at the gym.
“The Lunch Counter”, one of the stories from my soon-to-be-released book about how couples met after age fifty, is written by Harry who describes how he asked the woman pushing her tray next to him at a cafeteria-style restaurant for her opinion about some of the food choices.
All it took was a few minutes of pleasant conversation about the food–not about them–to boost his confidence so that he suggested they sit together and continue their conversation over lunch. She readily accepted! (I won’t spoil the story by telling you how it ends.)
So if you happen to be a single man or woman, please keep your eye open for chances to start a conversation about something other than yourselves while volunteering for Meals on Wheels, while enjoying a bus excursion filled with happy smiling people, or while attending a fund-raising wine and cheese reception at your local art gallery.
I’ll repeat it again because it remains so true. Love often begins with a question, a need, or a simple connection, such as “What do you think of this?”