A fresh start. A new chapter in life waiting to be written. New questions to be asked, embraced, and loved. Answers to be discovered and then lived in this transformative year of delight and self-discovery.
Sarah Ban Breathnach
Do you happen to be in the mood for a fresh start and a new beginning? Then away we go!
Aren’t we lucky for the chance to search for renewed hope by exploring what lies behind new doors? And the opportunity to set new goals? And to remind ourselves of the endless possibilities which may still lie ahead for our life?
Guess it’s time to drop the fear of failure then and not be afraid to move forward. After all, a fresh start requires us to put the past behind us.
So shall we close that door firmly on the old life or relationship and look forward, not backward? After all, in order to stay in balance, we must forget about the setbacks and failures of yesterday and instead boast a positive shining winning attitude, full of positive expectancy.
And never never never give up on the hope of finding love and romance again because it happens to the best of us, and even the worst.
After all, Marilyn met Larry while checking her mail in the lobby of the apartment building where he lived on the seventh floor and she on the fourth. Amanda met Will at a forty-fifth high school reunion, and I met David in a waltz and rumba ballroom dance class on a very ordinary Tuesday afternoon at a local senior center where we rotated partners after each new step was introduced.
Could it be that all of us were open to the possibility of meeting someone new? You know what I mean. That we hung our “availability” shingle on our foreheads rather than our “no vacancy” sign?
Being open is an outlook and attitude which may need to be cultivated and practiced, you know.
It’s a way of connecting with another person, perhaps first with a casual smile and confident eye contact, followed by light-hearted remarks, including good-natured humor if possible.
We might start out by introducing ourself–first name only—and asking a simple question, such as “How do you happen to know…(here, you mention the host’s name if you met at a party)?” or “How long have you been coming to Spanish class…(name the class you’re attending)?” or “How are you liking astronomy (again, name the activity you’re both participating in) so far?”
I remember asking David which dance—waltz or rumba–he liked the best. It really doesn’t take much to make small talk, but you may want to hone your skills by practicing on total strangers in everyday places such as while waiting in long lines at the post office or grocery store.
Even though school and work are among the most common meeting places, the internet is buzzing with potential partners just waiting to fall in love with you.
Admittedly, it takes some effort to create an upbeat profile, to post a recent photo, and weed out the “unsuitables”, but I nevertheless urge you to give it a try!
New dating sites are opening up all the time, so use bravado and switch to a new one if that’s what it takes to lift your spirits. After all, Jerry and Donna, my dear friends who met online after discovering that they only lived ten minutes from each other, are still as happy as can be after five years of marriage.
It’s a brand new day, folks, so please stay open to meeting your true love everywhere you go and never never never give up!
NEXT TUESDAY: Don’t miss “Best Places for Seniors to Meet”.