“Loveable Me –
How to Love Myself so that
Others will Love Me Too!”
“Beauty is when you can appreciate yourself. When you love yourself, that’s when you’re most beautiful.” Zoe Kravitz
Later-life relationships can be magical, you know—I’ve seen it happen time and time again. Just when you think your life is over, you get another chance at love, especially if you feel that you’re worthy of being loved.
Why is feeling worthy of receiving love so important? Simply because it’s the magnet that attracts love.
Love flourishes when we allow ourselves to receive as well as to give. For example, it’s important to be able to accept affection and attention from someone who finds us loveable, besides which it empowers the giver when we are gracious about accepting a present which has been carefully selected for us. Don’t we all love to give a gift to someone who acts deserving and who cheerfully says thank you to us?
By the way, loving ourselves is not at all the same as being selfishly and narcissistically self-absorbed, even though there are those moments when we may find it easier to sing the praises of someone else rather than ourselves. (Hopefully, such instances are short-lived because we don’t stay downwardly-focused on ourselves.)
“Love yourself—accept yourself—forgive yourself—and be good to yourself, because without you the rest of us are without a source of many wonderful things.” Leo F. Buscaglia
So maybe it’s time to take note of the number of things we’re most proud of which we can brag about when we first meet a person who seems truly interested in knowing more about us. We all have special gifts or talents, you know, and it’s important to convey an impression that we respect and think well of ourselves by speaking with calm and confidence—and not about the truth that at the moment we feel like a nervous wreck inside!
So what are some of the good things which you personally have to offer that distinguish you from others? There’s nothing wrong with enhancing our profile by stating some of these uniquely personal traits, assets, or qualities. And don’t be shy because it’s perfectly okay to feel proud of who you are without coming across as bigheaded. You may be a low-key person, but you don’t want to sound limp.
So are you a whiz at electronics? A “Mr Fix-it”? Or proud of your ability to grow the juiciest tomatoes on the block?
I personally happen to be very proud of my savory, tangy, killer chili. Plus, I love to bake fresh apple pies made with real vanilla grown in Mexico.
Ask yourself how you might finish this sentence if you were in casual conversation with someone whom you’d really enjoy getting to know better. “One of the things I’m most proud of is my ability to _______________.”
It’s all too easy to become mired in defeating self-talk—especially if we live alone with no one else at home to help boost our self-confidence. But sadly that happens to be the case for many of us. We live alone and have no one else in residence—no one there in the next room to provide us with ongoing hope and encouragement.
Therefore, it’s entirely up to us to master the keys of becoming self-reliant so we can annihilate negative thinking all by ourselves!
So may good fortune be yours and may you attract the love mate of your dreams who is kind, respectful, loving, compatible, and a perfect match for you—someone who, in time, can become your very best friend!
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