The human need for connection, attention, and affection does not change as we age.
As a matter of act, when it comes to our basic need for love and companionship, we’re all the same age inside regardless of the number of years we’ve lived—a fact which our family and friends may not necessarily recognize and accept.
Let’s say we happen to be in our 50s, 60s, or older and have decided that life has become dreary and lonely without someone to talk to or go places with.
So we begin to open ourself up to the possibility of inviting someone new into our social life.
If we plan to share our hopeful intentions with others in casual conversation, we’d be wise not to expect family, friends, or neighbors to necessarily jump for joy, or even support us mildly in our decision to date.
Why? Because they may feel jealous, threatened, or are even still grieving over the loss of our former mate themselves.
There’s no point in arguing with them just because they don’t necessarily see things our way, but we’d be wise to act respectful of their feelings and opinions.
The bottom line is that we needn’t compromise our own decisions because only we can choose what’s right for us.
And when family or friends raise objections to our dating in later life it could be due to a variety of reasons, including their own selfish motivations.
For example, it might be that jealous friends feel possessive of our time and that jealous family members feel possessive of our money.
But the objections of others is only one minor drawback to our dating because most obstacles can be easily overcome or dealt with.
How? Simply by hearing the other person out without arguing with them over their objections and by remaining respectful of their viewpoints without compromising our own personal desires.
So it’s important to act respectful of others’ viewpoints while not feeling a need to yield to their wishes.
To have someone to share life experiences with is an ongoing human need.
Whether it be the joys of grand-parenting or the loss of a friend, we all need that special someone to talk to about the emotions we feel.
Besides, it’s a blessing to have a special companion to catch a movie with, share a bag of popcorn with at a ballgame, or stroll next to at Market Night.
In addition to which, going out with someone can be just plain fun!
Everyone has the desire for love, companionship, friendship, and even intimacy.
So as long as we trust our instincts and use common sense, why not enjoy ourselves as much as we can? That means not allowing the objections of others to hinder a budding friendship or romantic interlude.
We should act polite, but stand our ground.
And bear in mind that men and women meet potential mates everywhere they go, whether it’s at the fitness center, a church outing, while serving as a Meals on Wheels volunteer, joining in on the fun of a bus excursion, or while circling round and round at a Saturday night square dance.
Yes, as I’ve said many times before, if we’ve been blessed to live till now, then our dating life is far from over.
So may love and joy be yours today and forever!