“One Easy Way of Inviting a Man or Woman You’ve Just Met
to Give You a Call”
Have you ever considered printing some inexpensive business cards which carry your first name only, phone number, and a catchy logo of your favorite pet or special hobby? And then doing what one very nice looking man did after falling into casual conversation with me as we both walked from an outlying hospital parking lot to the lobby where we were both headed to visit patients?
Just before nodding goodbye, he most unexpectedly charmed and disarmed me by handing me such a card, saying “You know, I really enjoyed talking with you. If you’d ever like to talk some more, please call me—I’d like that!”
He made his point. And I admit that I felt very flattered..
We can often tell if someone we like also likes us. That’s because some people ignite immediately and it doesn’t take long for mutual sparks of chemistry to fly between them.
In days gone by, just think of how many times we may have met a man or woman we’ve been attracted to at a holiday party, a ballroom dance class, a community event where we happen to be volunteering, or even while standing in a long line at the post office. There are, in fact, countless places where we might strike up a friendly casual conversation, including the waiting room at the doctor’s office.
Having a card handy to give to someone you’d like to get to know better is not at all embarrassing if you smile and say, “You know, I really enjoyed talking with you. If you’d ever like to talk some more, please call me—I’d like that!”
Over the years, I have often fallen into conversation with a handsome man or two while attending a free museum event, a gallery opening, or community reception where punch and hors d’oeuvres set the stage for easy mingling. And in retrospect, I sure wish I had known then about this special tasteful approach to “inviting” a man whom I’d just met and liked to give me a call.
Just the other day, a girlfriend phoned me to bemoan the fact that she had just spent five hours sitting next to a dreamy guy on an airplane with whom she had enjoyed great conversation. Now she’s kicking herself for not having such a card handy in her pocket or purse to give to him afterwards before he got away!
Several men have confided to me that the primary reason they frequently hesitate to call a woman is because they’re afraid of rejection. But when a woman “invites” the man to call her, it most definitely changes the tone and is less threatening for him to ask her out on a date.
A card is a simple technique. It is tasteful, socially acceptable, and classy. Maybe you’ll hear from the person, maybe not, but in no way have you lost face. And because you’ve flattered the person you’ve handed your card to, they’re bound to say thank you.
Remember, we have to keep putting ourselves out there and not wait for the world to come to us! So what are we waiting for? Do you have a better idea?
And in case you’re wondering if I ever followed through with the “invitation” to call that attractive man at the hospital. ..the only reason I did not is because I was already in a serious committed relationship with my dear David. Had I not been, however, I most definitely would have contacted him.
You bet! He was respectful, likeable, good-looking, and there’s no denying that we both felt some chemistry.
NEXT TUESDAY: Don’t miss “Overcoming ‘First-Date’ Jitters”