We never know where or when our true love may show up. Therefore, it’s important to keep our dreams alive and to never never never give up trying!
We’ve already talked about the options of enrolling in online dating sites, attending speed dating parties, or carrying calling cards with our first-name-only-plus-phone-number to hand out to special people whom we happen to fall into conversation with while standing in those long boring lines at the post office or checkout counter.
And although numerous boomers and seniors have succeeded in finding romance and friendship simply by going through the motions of daily life, I wonder how many of you have ever made an effort to reconnect with a hard-to-forget high school or college sweetheart.
Because if not, I’m giving you a push.
In today’s world–a day and age when we have chat rooms, blogging sites, and alumni website hookups–it’s become fairly easy to track down a former boyfriend or girlfriend from high school or college.
So if all else has failed so far, why not give this a try?
However, if you make it your mantra to complain, “Oh, I’ll never meet someone who’s right for me” you’re right! You probably never will.
So you might want to form the habit of guarding against such negative self-talk, regardless of your situation or feelings of hopelessness.
If you were to re-phrase your language, however, with affirmations such as, “I know it’s never too late to meet someone new and wonderful!” you might be surprised to discover how you immediately elevate your mood, send out new sparks, and raise your expectations.
You may also notice that new people are drawn to you more easily and that key people from your past may also reappear in your life!
When Ben submitted a news update to his high school alumni bulletin that his wife had died, his old girlfriend and love of his youth—June–upon reading the newsletter immediately made an effort to track him down. In fact, she contacted close to half a dozen people to get his number and address because he had moved to a different state.
Ben almost fell down when he heard her voice over the phone after 50-some years. However, he and June quickly arranged a visit, rekindled their love, and I’m happy to say were married in a matter of months. True story!
And when Sandie reconnected with Gary, a casual favorite from high school, on Facebook because they were both helping the committee locate classmates for their 50th reunion, it didn’t take long for them to start communicating privately.
And although Gary’s home was in Oklahoma and Sandie’s was in California, they found a way to see each other before the reunion, and were joyously married within the year.
I could easily share many more stories about how couples who found themselves single in later life made a special effort to track down a special someone from years ago and discovered that the attraction was still there. And it blossomed into love!
That’s all there is to it. Just keep yourself going, change your outlook and expectations, and you become a magnet for love. (But don’t forget to get out of the house.)
I would love to hear your stories, questions, and suggestions, so please write me.
NEXT WEEK: Don’t miss “When Friendship Turns to Love”