“I hope to start enjoying flirting again when I’m 70, like my mother did.”
The most powerful level of flirting generally begins with direct eye-contact.
Which is not to say that flirting can’t occur over the phone if we use a special tantalizing tone of voice or even in writing if we mail or send a text message charged with emotionally-arousing words.
So what is the value of flirting and why is it important to set a flirtatious romantic tone to energize a dating relationship?
“Dating is fun. It’s light: There’s courting; there’s the interesting, exciting text messaging and flirting. There’s no weight. When you start getting into relationships, you really start having to consider each other in your lives, and I think that’s really important.”
Sending a flirt to another person requires self-confidence, such as those magnetic moments when we lock eyes with a stranger for several seconds before looking away.
At the very least, it makes the stranger know that we noticed and are attentive to them. Maybe they will respond to us with a gaze or a smile, maybe not.
Flirting should be playful but it need not be daunting. It may lead no where if the object of our flirtation is not available for whatever reason.
But if they flirt back, it’s a signal that they could be interested in us, in which case it’s okay to continue exchanging more signals such as wide smiles, coy glances, head nods, hair flip, or other friendly behaviors.
If we receive no reaction, however, it’s probably best to change our focus to someone else. In other words, don’t continue flirting with someone who does not respond (and don’t take it personally).
Is there any value in making a habit of flirting with someone who is already our romantic partner?
Yes, yes, yes! It’s always up to us to keep the chemistry of love and romance alive by continuing to demonstrate our attraction to our mate or lover by gazing deeply into their eyes using seductive eyebrow-raising, whispered flirts, or playful banter as often as possible.
And just the right body language, be it laughter, subtle head nods, or shoulder shrugs, could arouse enough of an out-of-body levitation or near-aneurysm to assure them that they’re the only one in the world for us.
So let’s continue to be confident, playful, and never lose our art of flirting. Living in the realm of romantic possibility by staying open to discovering love everywhere we go every single day is exhilarating and exciting.
The man or woman of our dreams is out there somewhere and could show up even before the day is over!
“Flirting all starts with eye contact! You can tell a girl is into you if she’s across the room and still making eye contact with you.”