There are so many wonderful and inexpensive opportunities for seniors to meet potential like-minded mates.
The key is to keep an open mind, view every place we go as a possible meeting ground, and keep getting out of the house.
Why? Because the infinite possibilities for chance encounters are endless! Here is just one example…
Harry met Edna while pushing his tray alongside hers in the buffet line of a cafeteria-style restaurant where he casually began asking her opinion about some of the food choices.
All it took was a few minutes of pleasant conversation to spark enough interest and attraction for Harry to suggest that they sit together and continue talking over their meal.
Apparently, getting to know each other turned out to be so enjoyable that Harry and Edna decided to meet a second time at the same place! And soon afterwards, this lucky couple began a ten-month courtship which led to a very loving happy marriage.
Where to meet future mates?
For starters, here are three proven senior-meet-senior arenas where countless older adults have met others with common interests and shared passions.
The first is through some form of public service, such as by volunteering or serving on committees that support worthy causes.
Next is by participating in faith-based group activities.
And the third is by attending a class—it doesn’t matter what it is–be it a foreign language course, cooking class, art, photography, adult education, or music appreciation.
Just by staying involved and pursuing the interests which capture our attention we will always be brought together with like-minded people. But it helps to keep putting our name and face out there every single day!
By the time we become seniors, we’ve pretty much developed a pretty good intuition about whether a person is safe or not, besides which we generally feel more at ease with others as we grow older.
We may still have to force ourselves to get out and go places, however, and to cast our net far and wide!
I know how difficult or awkward it felt to step outside my comfort zone because before meeting David in a local ballroom dance class nearly ten years ago, I vividly recall what a stretch it was for me.
Oh, how I dreaded venturing out on my own and going to unfamiliar places by myself. Yet, I forced myself to do so by relying on no-nonsense “go-somewhere” routine pep talks.
Once I even traveled to Honolulu on a glamorous vacation—alone. (The unexpected fun which I had on that trip may be saved for a future column.)
We might also consider attending fund-raising events, ranging from red-carpet galas to casual local wine-tasting gatherings, which support our favorite charities.
Market night and fairs are also places where we can strike up informal lighthearted face-to-face conversations with people standing next to us who are also admiring the wares.
But that’s not all! How about signing up for travel tours, turn-around bus trips sponsored by our local senior center or YMCA, or attending public receptions at art galleries?
While it may be a good idea to take advantage of matchmaking services, dating coaches, speed dating events, or online dating sites, we still must get out of the house to sow our seeds for a future social life.
And we should always carry an informal business card which carries our first name only, phone number, and a catchy logo of our favorite pet or special hobby.
As seniors, we don’t necessarily have to get married, you know.
The important thing is to find someone with whom we share chemistry to talk to and go places with because nothing in the world feels more wonderful than having a special someone to love.
So I urge you to avoid staying at home, even if it means going to a public cafeteria for lunch or dinner. I just marvel whenever I think that Harry met Edna while…
And by all means, make it a rule to accept all invitations which family or friends offer—no exceptions! There is still so much magic left in life. Do you realize that your true love may also be seeking you this very instant?
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